I took a little bit of time away from this site as I got fed up with feeling as if I was riding on a rollercoaster, but then I missed the contact and banter with old and new friends, so I decided to give it another go.
I'm really NOT looking to meet up with anybody for now, but would like to continue to make new friends and exchange some interesting messages and banter.
I am busy studying for a history degree part-time, while working full-time so I'm not really in a position to look for a life partner just now, and having regained my independence I don't intend to ever get married again.
I do enjoy sex, but that is not the be-all and end-all of what I'm about, and my time is currently very much taken up with my studies. Studying for a degree doesn't mean that I'm in any way "posh" - I'm quite ordinary but I do enjoy being able to have intelligent conversations about all sorts of things (not only about sex). I wouldn't rule out meeting up with the right man in time if he ticked all the boxes - or at least most of them (I don't expect anybody to be perfect, and that should work both ways too)!
I'll keep the next bit brief as I gather you guys like things in straightforward bullet points:
- I don't want to hook up with men who are married, unhappily married, or in another relationship;
- I prefer men around my own age or a little younger (roughly between 48-59);
- NO one night stands - I would only want to meet up with one person on a regular basis;
- I don't do webcam or Skype "fun", so please don't ask;
- I have filters for:
-- Age (48-63);
-- Location (within a 10 mile radius);
-- Profile photo (you must have one);
- If you are outside those filters I might still reply - but if not, please take the hint;
- Please don't message me in text speak - this is not my mobile phone you are writing to;
- I am a real stickler for spelling and punctuation and hate badly written messages;
- No winks please (they will simply get deleted - most of them are fake anyway);
- Don't ask me for more photos - the ones you see are the only ones I wish to share;
- Please have something more interesting to say than just "how are you?", or "fancy a chat?";
- I don't regard this to be a "chat site", so I ignore messages which simply ask for a chat;
- Anybody who sends a crude or offensive message will be instantly blocked.
OK, so now you've got this far, if I were to change my mind and decide that I did want to meet up with somebody (particularly after my studies have come to an end next summer), he would ideally be around my age or slightly younger, taller than me (minimum of 5'8") (and don't lie about your height because I would be able to tell immediately when we met), white Caucasian, pubically smooth (I hate pubic hair!), have a high sex drive, be fairly well-endowed, enjoy giving intimate full body massages (and yes, he would get one in return!), and who would also enjoy doing other things outside of the bedroom, such as going for walks at the seaside or in the countryside, visiting places of interest, relaxing picnics by the riverside watching the boats, strolling along the water's edge on the beach, weekends away - even camping (and maybe combining sexual activities with any of the above, as long as we did not get caught!). He would also have to be intelligent and not be afraid of a woman who has a mind of her own, and due to spending much of her life living alone, is happy to do things her own way, and has to be true to herself.
I don't ever want to get married again, but I would like to find someone who I can regard as being "my man", excluding all others, who would like to lead an independent life but hook up on a regular basis for the activities indicated above, and keeping in contact in between meets. A little more than a FWB though - I would want that person to consider themselves as being "in a relationship" with me, albeit not a full-on committed relationship with expectations of moving in together (or if that did ever happen, I would want my own bedroom!).
I don't want somebody who only wants to come round for a "booty call" and then not get in contact for several weeks, thinking that if he sends a brief text message I will welcome him back into my bedroom for another 30 minute wonder - I won't!! Sexual interest needs to be fed on a regular basis to be kept alive - otherwise the mind starts to wander and look for gratification elsewhere.